How to Make New Friends in Adult Life
Making friends during childhood is a natural part of life. Just as normal is experiencing something of a drift from established relationships as you get older, grow apart from others and encounter unique circumstances such as taking on a new job in different area from home or travelling around the world.
Don’t forget that people change as they get older and a variety of valid reasons can lead to losing touch with good friends. Should you find yourself in the rather common position of having to build up an entirely fresh network of people, the strain is understandable but far from impossible to overcome.
Here’s a list of handy tips to point you in the direction of meeting new people with shared interests:
Be brave in your approach: People are often apprehensive about approaching others, as they believe they might seem strange or the person won’t want to chat to them. Don’t be afraid!
Try new activities: Adventure isn’t just for kids, so get out there and try communal hobbies like joining a book club, volunteering at festivals, taking up a new sport, signing up for cookery classes. This will also help you find like-minded people who will share your interests.
Be open: Nobody’s perfect and everybody’s different, so allow for the experience of meeting and interacting with all kinds of people.
Make plans and stick to them: The key to making friendships is to make an effort, therefore if you are invited to something go!
Don’t forget about culture and customs: If you’ve moved to a new country, there can be a bit of an adjustment period. There can be a different way of doing things and it may take time to adapt. Don’t be put off by this; be respectful and understanding at the same time.
Hone your listening skills: Conversations are a two-way street, so don’t just wait for your turn to speak. Listen and take an interest in what others are saying, as it will help deepen your relationship and establish a real connection.
Don’t take things too personally: Plans get cancelled, things come up, people are sometimes genuinely too busy. Remember not to take it to heart.
Be realistic: You can’t expect to connect with every single person you encounter, so don’t feel disheartened if a specific friendship fails to materialise.
Don’t forget your old friends: With all the excitement of finding a new friend or group, it can be easy to lose touch with old friends. Keep up the effort with these people too!